The Becoming Process by Mark Cunningham


“Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” –James Allen

I want $10 million, I want to be happy, I want a wonderful relationship, I want the body of the Jockey underpants man, I want…,I want…, I want….

James Allen so aptly wrote that just because we want something, does not mean that we get it. We have to become the kind of person who has developed, learnt, and acquired the skills, competencies, abilities and habits which are necessary to be worthy of the desired end result.

Therefore the choice to become successful or not lies squarely with each one of us. The “becoming process” is not easy but is always worthwhile.

Our circumstance may differ and the level or degree of success may vary, but as we are proactively involved in pursuing “our vision” which is values aligned, the growth we experience will form a new platform from which to launch our dreams. Joel Barker said that the difference between a vision and a dream is action. I challenge you to make a difference and make that choice today to act and become the person that you were intended to be.

By Mark Cunningham

The Four D’s – Part 1 by Mark Cunningham

The First D –  The Decision

Nothing significant happens unless we first make a decision. We choose whether we are going to be actively engaged  and proactive. The saying that “evil thrives when good men do nothing” rings true. Indecision puts a person into a state of limbo leading to inactivity, worry, feelings of self doubt, and negativity. It is better to make the wrong decision than not to make the decision at all. If the incorrect decision is made, we can self correct. If no decision is made, we drift upon the ocean of life becoming prey to external circumstances.

The analogy of someone waiting at the station, but never boarding any trains that arrive and depart, aptly describes the consequences of indecision. What benefit is there if I never climb on board and thus never experience the journey? There will be train rides that I enjoy. There will certainly be those that I do not enjoy. How do I know if I never make the decision to experience it in the first place? Now don’t get me wrong, I am not implying that we must climb on board every train that passes by. We need to be wise and learn from others mistakes and not necessarily our own.

The decision to be the kind of person we want to be regardless of external circumstances will ensure the realisation of our dreams. Critical to decision making, is knowing what our values are and being guided by correct principles. Principles have been described as eternal truths that are never changing. We need to cultivate principles of integrity and honour by being true to the decisions we have made.

Steven Covey’s first habit in his acclaimed book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”, is to “Be Proactive”. I challenge you to be proactive in decision making. Decide what you want to become, where you want to go, and how you are going to get there. Make the decision and enjoy the ride.

By Mark Cunningham